I just scored my first Facebook hate post.
By commenting on a photographer’s post I seem to have provoked some ire (and some support).
This week this was one:
HONY has got a lot more readers lately and this post produced loads of comments, mostly of the Aaah Sweet variety but some very anti. As often happens, there were replies like this:
This absolutism has been pissing me off for years,so when I see it I try to chip in. I wrote:
and it took seconds for five people to tell me I don’t know my own mind, and dozens to agree with them. Par for the course. Pricking that bubble is too much for the apologists.
They were trumped by one Chad Weeks
I’ve not bothered replying though if I had been following I would have told Chad Weeks that he doesn’t have to be quite so afraid. Sad man. Still only two Likes for him.
Despite the constantly-heard claim that sexuality, in any version, is something you’re born with, like many women I know my choices are and have been socially constructed. We seem to be able to accept that ‘femininity’ and ‘masculinity’ are, so why not go all the way? I also believe this applies to everyone, but obviously I can only speak for myself.
This is the opposite of the constant claim by LGBT campaigners that they were born that way and therefore prejudice is unjustified as we ‘can’t help it’ and need acceptance. I prefer the more dynamic explanation, which gives agency back to the individual. ‘Surveys’ show more women than men agree with me, I could speculate why but wanted to just post this exchange as it demonstrates so clearly what I and others who do think the same, are up against.
It was 1980 when Adrienne Rich published Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. And people are still surprised that thoughtful women agree?
[I hope Brandon Stanton doesn’t mind me using his image but it matters for making sense of the text. I will ask, but he’s busy.] [Update – he says No Problem. Good man.]